GETTING TO THE HEART OF THE MATTER

As we approach Valentine's Day, we see heart shaped items of everything. From boxes of chocolates to the little sweetheart sugar candies with all of the love sentiments printed on them such as wink wink and Be-mine - you get the visual. Since V-DAY is the day that most people celebrate the emotion of "LOVE", I thought it fitting to write about the part of the body where love emanates. Yes you guessed it, THE HEART.  This is the first organ that develops in a fetus, pumping blood throughout in order to cleanse and nourish all of its cells. It is also the first organ to stop working once the death process occurs. 

Did you also know that the month of February has been declared as"American Heart Month" ? This declaration relates to keeping our hearts strong and healthy and free of disease but have you ever thought about the emotional health of your heart? It has been found that the electrical impulse of the heart is approximately 60 times greater than that of the brain and is the most powerful generator of the magnetic field in the body. Recent studies have shown that the electromagnetic field which radiates from the heart center is far greater in strength than that of the brain; In fact, more than five thousand times greater.  Various experiments have found that one person's heart waves can travel up to a distance of 5-6 feet, affecting another person's brainwaves resulting in an energy exchange that can be both positive or negative. So with this knowledge, then it is safe to say that if the energy of your heart field can affect another person's brain, then it too can affect your own brain.  

Emotions can run high and low and are usually broken down into two categories - "LOVE" and "FEAR". Love is a natural emotion that we are born with and is generated through the heart center. Fear on the other hand is an emotion we are taught and is generated from the mind or the ego.  We have all heard the expressions: "follow your heart", "let your heart lead," "do what your heart tells you", etc.  Upon having to make a decision, do you tend to use logic, or do you follow your heart? I must admit, I've been in situations where I've had to make a split decision (head or heart?)  Some decisions are obvious and some are not so easy peasy.

In order to figure out which area you mostly draw energy from, just ask yourself a few questions.  Are you a risk taker and trust that things will work out in your favor?  Do you make decisions based on your feelings as opposed to logic?  Do you feel other people's pain on a deep level which affects you for days ? Are you an animal lover or animal activist ?  If you said yes to any of these questions, then most likely you have a heart center that is activated and open and this is the area where you are most likely to make a decision from. 

Fear on the otherhand uses the ego mind when making decisions and usually likes to play it safe.  As the ego is responsible for making us feel safe and secure, it also is responsible for rationalizing and making sense out of things. It never even gives us the opportunity to receive divine help from this vast and wonderful universe, allowing for blessings that may come our way.  The ego does not depend on a higher power, but rather, relies on it's own merit to thrive out there in the world.  For example, staying in a less than favorable job, marriage or friendship.  The ego mind will rationalize that although these relationships are negative, abusive and traumatizing, it will convince you to stay with language such as this:  "Although my boss is mean and nasty, in an economy such as this, I'm lucky to have a job".  Or, "my husband pays no attention to me and is very condescending,  but I'll put up with it because I am so afraid to be alone and can't pay the bills on my own".  Well, you get the idea.  The ego mind keeps us separate from love by using the emotion of fear;  it often tells us that we are not good enough and because of this, we are always trying to prove our worth to others. The ego mind operates from a selfish and "ME" perspective; always trying to seek pleasure and instant gratification.  It does not like to be inconvenienced and has no patience. As spiritual as one may be and may understand the difference between using the heart vs the mind, as long as we are humans living on earth, it will be a constant struggle to tame the ego mind and keep it at bay. 

On this Valentine Day weekend, the Spirit World has encouraged me to remind you that the most exhilarating of all human emotions is LOVE.  It is the glue that connects us all and it is nature's incredible way of keeping the human species alive and reproducing. As previously mentioned above, allowing love to flow through your heart center can affect your brain. When a person has love in their life, the brain has shown to have more of the good hormones such as dopamine and serotonin.  Scans of the human brain have also found that when a person falls in love, the frontal cortex which is the area that is responsible for criticizing and judging, shuts down.  I guess this is where the phrase, "LOVE IS BLIND" comes from.  These scans have also shown that when love flows, another part of the brain that shuts down is the part that controls negative emotions or fear.  So the way I see it, we can give the ego mind the boot and rely on the emotion of love to feel safe and secure.

Allowing love to flow freely through your heart center begins with you.  When you love yourself first,  others will be drawn to this love  and all of the barriers will disappear.  Some people reading this may be wondering, "how do I let more love in"?   If you were hurt in the past which led you to build walls around your heart, I urge you to think about how you are going to start the forgiveness process.  Most people who hurt others or who lash out, are people who are hurting themselves.  Although each situation is different, think about the person who hurt you.  Was their hurtful actions drawn from their heart, or their ego mind ? You be the judge.  As people may be hurting, the only way they know how to feel better is to transfer that hurt onto others.  It does not excuse their behavior and it does not mean you need to allow them back into your life but as the saying goes - "To forgive is to set a prisoner free only to discover that the prisoner was you".

I hope you enjoyed my LOVE BLOG and I hope this gave you some food for thought.  After all, as we all know, "love makes the world go around".  From my heart to yours......I love you.....❤️

Namaste
Kim Russo
Psychic Medium / Intuitive Healer & Counselor
www.Kimthehappymedium.com

Becoming Smarter than your Smartphone

April 27, 2014

Having to fill a whole day of appointments and sticking to a schedule has become the American way.  I am just as guilty of this as the next guy.  I grew up in a generation without all of the techy gadgets that exist today.  When I went to Disney World in the 70s, Epcot had a ride that you would sit in and it would bring you through a visual world of the future.  I remember looking at ovens that would cook food in 2 minutes and thinking, that's a great concept but how can that ever be possible?  Well, I don't think there is a home today that doesn't have a microwave oven.  Along with this future invention, I remember seeing TV monitors that would allow you to see the person you were having a phone conversation with.  For me, the only frame of reference I had at that time that resembled this future existence was the TV cartoon, "The Jetsons".  This cartoon family lived in a world full of modern day conveniences, appliances and gadgets that helped them live a very fast paced life with not having to wait for anything.  It gave multi-tasking a whole new meaning.  When I think of this cartoon, memories of George Jetson, the family dad, standing on a conveyer belt on his way to work is what comes to my mind.  There was no need for him to walk, as the belt zipped him from his kitchen where there was an assembly line of gadgets that would cook his food, to help him get dressed to housekeepers that were robots, to his flying car that would get him to his office.  Who knew that the visionaries who created this show would be so on target?  All these years later, we have all of these conveniences, and the flying car? Trust me, they are working on it.   But how much is too much?  I admit, I have a laptop, a desktop, an ipad, a mini-ipad, a kindle, and an I-phone.  Am I missing anything?  Probably.  The point is, we all use all of these on a daily basis and our lives have become dependent upon them. 

The other day, on my way to a dentist appointment, I left my home in a hurry and I forgot my smart phone.  When I pulled out of my driveway and was half way to my appointment, I realized that my trusty companion was not by my side.  I suddenly realized that I felt disconnected from the entire world at that moment.  Not only did I not like the feeling, but also I almost considered turning my car around.  My next thought was - the location I was going to had a landline phone and my family knew my location and could find me god forbid of an emergency.  When I got to my destination and I had to sit in the waiting room, there were a few outdated magazines on the waiting room shelf.  Nothing that I was even remotely interested in reading.  Call me crazy but I was going through withdrawals as I watched the people waiting and the entire waiting room had their heads bowed down, flipping through god knows what on their phones and tablets.  Waiting for my name to be called seemed like an eternity as I was forced to sit down, alone with my thoughts.  Can you imagine? My thoughts? Uninterrupted by emails, phone calls, calendars and Facebook?

As I was ushered into my appointment, and after some x-rays were taken, the dentist was called into the next room with an emergency he needed to tend to.  This event left me alone in the dental chair in the reclined position.  Not having any communication to the outside world, I was forced to just lie there.  Many thoughts were flooding through my mind from planning my upcoming week to concern's about my family and friends and their problems and worries. In this moment I realized that without the distraction of the constant stimulation from my NOT so smart phone, I needed to decide how I was going to spend the next hour or so.  I decided that I had a choice so I decided wisely.  Mentally I sent my family and friends love and light and said a prayer that they find peace and the answers to their dilemmas.  Oh, and the best part was I didn't need to download an app to do this. I also decided that I could use this time to enhance my energy.  So I pushed any thoughts that were not pleasant out of my mind and continued to visualize a peaceful white light above my head.  I allowed this light to enter the top of my head and then to come in my whole body.  I pictured this light re-energizing all of my cells and asked it to enter anywhere I felt it could touch my vibration and heal any physical issues as well as emotional ones.  Time flew by as I drifted into a time lapse.  I literally had to force myself to come out of the blissfulness when I heard the nurse call my name back into the room.  I immediately realized that leaving home without my phone was a blessing.  I felt refreshed and renewed.

Human nature can be funny sometimes.  In order for us to escape our own thoughts, we are not only becoming programmed to take a peek into the outside world through our gadgets, but we have become addicted to them. It has literally become an epidemic in our society.   As like anything else which was invented to help humanity multi-task or become advanced (Note: I am a huge advocate for social media outlets and technology and love my gadgets just as much as you do), however, finding a balance is the key.  Allow yourself to be alone with your thoughts without interruptions.  Even if its for two hours a day.  When I leave home, now I purposely leave my phone in my car or my bag.  I realized that it is so easy to get caught up in the technological world that has taken over our population. Of course we all need to conduct our business in an efficient way and so it is necessary to check on things.  However, try not to let the cyber world take the place of the human condition.  Pick your head up from your phone or tablet and smile at a stranger while in public.  Making eye contact with people, rather than walking the streets surfing cyber space can start to bring us back to our selves.  Although the Internet does a good job in keeping the world connected; the only true connections are created by LOVE....

Namaste xoxo

Kim